Moving Targets

One of the most difficult parts about my work, software development, is making a plan to have something completed by a specific date, then learning that if you stay on your current course, you’re going to miss your mark entirely.  It is for that very reason that I’m having to put in extra hours this week.

Relationships are the same way. We often get hurt or offended by our partner’s words or actions when it involves our unfulfilled intentions.

“I was going to clean up dinner as a nice gesture, but now I don’t want to at all because you got on my case about it!”

Or when we actually do clean up, we might expect to be praised and heralded as a hero. Obviously, when that reaction doesn't come, disappointment takes its place.

We can never account for everything. That moment you have been waiting for to give your spouse some special gift? You know, that moment that hasn't presented itself in the past 2 weeks because she’s talking to her mom? Or he’s out with his buddies? Or your 3 year old son decided to use the wall as a canvas and his poop as the paint?

No matter how hard we try, we can never plan perfect moments. Something always goes wrong, and even when it doesn't something definitely could have gone better. But through our attempts, we haphazardly create those perfect moments.

The bottom line is that I’m stressing out! I know what my goals are in so many things, and I’m slowly working my way toward them. This blog is hard! Even now, as I deviate from today’s planned post, I’m not even deviating in the right direction. This is meant to be a resource for dating ideas, mingled with a few tips and stories. But all too often, I put out these kind of posts. Talking about nothing, rambling about nothing, and generally being boring.

Well, for anyone reading these ramblings, I’m sorry. I’m trying to make this more useful and interesting, but it’s just so slow. After talking to my wife, I've realized that there needs to be something more valuable. No one really cares about my struggles (something that I am foolishly surprised to find out). If I don’t have anything worth sharing, then there is no point in sharing it.

So I will continue to write more of these silly “journal” posts while I re-organize myself and my goals. After I get that together, I will start posting daily ideas for dates and all things date related in addition to whatever else I feel appropriate. I really want to be telling stories and expressing thoughts and ideas. It just hasn't made sense to do that in this blog.

I’ll plan on putting the new stuff into full swing starting next Tuesday after the Monday Post-Op. Until then, we’ll all have to be a little patient.