Keep it Simple

As I've been thinking about the best “kick-off” date, I've been all through the ringer on what is appropriate and what will be a quick trip to a burn-out.  I started with the most laid back, easy dates I could think of.  Any guesses?

Dinner and a Movie!

There were two problems with this.  First, there really wasn't anything in the theater that looked worth making a date of.  Second, and more importantly, ...lame!  While there is nothing inherently wrong with dinner and a movie (in a relationship), and it can often be a very nice evening, it simply is not a good way to start anything!  Besides, even though my focus is in my marriage, your focus may not be.  And if you are looking for a good way to start dating someone new, I would hate to lead you astray.

So that one is OUT!

But I still wanted to keep it simple.  What else is there?  Hopefully you can begin to see my dilemma.  There are lots of things that an established couple can do together that are very simple, including a walk, a trip to the park, or a small hike.  However, the more established you are, the less effective the “mundane” dates will be to demonstrate commitment.  And, as I mentioned, it is not very helpful to those who are single.

The solution in keeping things simple is to come up with one idea, and let that be the entire date!  There is a little secret when it comes to good things…

Too little of a good thing will never leave you wishing it would have never happened!

At first, it may seem odd, “Why cut yourself off when you’re having a good time?”  Yes, our generation and society as a whole has become largely over-indulgent, but if you can learn to step away while things are good, then you always end on a good note.  It’s basic psychology, and it will leave you wanting to come back for more (and your date).  Okay, I actually don’t know what basic psychology entails, but it’s in there somewhere.

We’ll take a look at some better ideas tomorrow, so feel free to post some of your own in the comments.  But remember the goal for this first date...

Keep it simple.  Keep it short.

(A lesson I’m learning with these posts too)!